One of the main themes in response to those questions that I asked , orbits this:
“ I want to know … I want his experience … Tell me what you did along the way… why?”
Ok, let’s look at this game and your experiences in the contexts of growing up.
Baseball is a lot like life – it’s fair and unfair, it’s officiated and managed by those that you have no control over, it’s a collection of people who you must get along with if you’re going to be called a teammate, there will be people who will give opinions of you – right or wrong, you’ll have to settle for less than what’s really needed at times, and sometimes tomorrow may be a thing that you’d just as soon avoid.
Now suppose, just suppose, you had someone that has already been this route, all of it. Suppose their journey was laced with all the successes and failures that you’re about to face – without you actually going through the motions …… especially the failure part. I don’t know about you, but if I had a person, or persons, that I could sit down and talk to like this – I’d be a darn fool not to take advantage of it.
So look, think of your parents, an uncle or aunt, your pastor or minister, a teacher that you admire, or other adult in the same way that you would think of talking to a pro ball player that you admire. Use their experience with life in the same way as you would use the experiences of a pro ball player.
Now, how does all this come full circle with you and baseball? It comes about this way – with experience in life comes maturity. With maturity comes a relaxed stability that sets one apart, a seasoned individual that seems to speaks volumes when there’s really no need to speak at all.
As a pitching coach, I, like my contemporaries, can bring along just about anyone with just a smidgeon of physical talent. And like my contemporaries, when called upon to “card” someone and pass on an opinion of someone’s worth – now and in the future, this process takes into account maturity, big time. What I and others like me cannot work with, risk our livelihood, pass on to others in our business, is a player who has mood swings, temperamental and acts like he’s full-of-himself. There’s just no time for that. Time is money and money is in short supply – along with the patience of a management’s attention span.
Use baseball to help you learn and grow. Learn from those right by your side, and grow. I see the benefits of this process daily.
Coach B.