i don't know about your area, but in this area there are several teams/organizations that have high school and college coaches who also coach summer ball.
If you have your heart set on missing out on a great high school experience, then I suggest you look for one of these types of programs run by college and/or high school coaches. This can be an "in" for you in any case. Rec ball will not get you noticed or help to improve your game as much as a higher level of competition will.
Another opportunity out there are the "showcase" tournaments available to 14, 15, 16, 17 and 18 year old players. Again, I don't know about your area, but in this area there are several professional baseball training facilities that put together teams to attend these types of showcase events.
You didn't ask for my opinion, but I'm with Roger. HS BB is not a requirement, but it is a valuable stepping stone. Not only for the competition, learning, and experience, but also because HS coaches are generally pretty well connected to the baseball machine that includes colleges. In many cases, kids get full or partial rides based primarily on what their HS coach tells the college guys that he knows.
Gotty, baseball is a chew-'em-up sport. A lot of guys just get frustrated and hang 'em up. That's true even at the HS level, as your present feelings attest to. But hang in there man. Do your best. Work hard enough that you know you're at your best when the moment of truth arrives, and if you do that, you will rise to the occasion. And then you can just relax and enjoy the ride.
Much love, brother! Good luck, and keep swinging!