[quote=“fearsomefour”]The most valuable life lesson my son has learned from baseball coaches is how to deal with jerks. Most in our experience, I hate to say it, are jerks.
It would be one thing to be a jerk and be great at improving performance, but, most are not great or even good in my experience.
I have found a tremendous amount of insecurity in the coaching ranks. I dont know if this is people needing to feel in control or if they are insecure about their lack of knowledge, but, it is pervasive. It has been said baseball is a game of failure and that is true. Maybe this feeds the psyche of people under the impression they should be able to control it.
One thing for sure…if you are in a position of power over people, particularly kids, and you exploit that power in a negative way you are a jerk.
The other thing I have seen is little accountability from coaches. They preach one thing…be accountable, never miss time, be respectful, respect the game (blah)…then display the opposite behavior. In short; hypocrites.
So, my son learned pretty early on to not share any excitement about what he was doing, to not share any other coaching he may have received. If you coach tells you to do something, do it. If it is stupid and a waste of time, just bite your tongue on do it.
If you travel ball coach forbids coaching or lessons anywhere else, ignore him. Kids, you have to be able to seek out your own information and your own coaching, because, chances are your high school coach or travel ball coach does not care about your development.
To answer your question, finding information that is helpful, whether via this site or private instructors is a great thing. Just think twice before sharing it with your high school or travel ball coach.
That has been our experience anyway.[/quote]
So sad, but true