Your absolutely right about multiple directions and do-this … no wait,do that, that circles the instruction market, not to mention the coaching ranks of your son’s age group and up and down the amateur baseball ladder. And you’d think that somewhere along the line there would be some level ground … unfortunately, it’s mostly pot-luck. There areexceptions to be sure… but rare.
Now, mostly what I just said is something that you already know, so there’s very little words of wisdom here.
However, if your son has a reasonable talent for observing, reasoning, trying for himself this-n-that, you’d be surprised at just how much a kid can actually teach himself … up to a point. The problem with a youngster taking that route is … they try to throw like a howitzer right out of starting gate and leave reasoning side of the equation stuck in starting blocks. Pitching is a very unnatural act for the human body to demand on itself… and anyone who thinks otherwise has never gone through the agonizing experience of trying it. Why? Because it takes stamina, I mean real stamina to undergo the same thing … over and over again, in the dead heat of summer, chill of fall, and still there’s work to be polished off, skills to be honed. True pitchers never stop practicing their craft.
Also, most youngsters who really want to pitch have a certain knack for it. In other words, it’s not something that requires a lot of …do this, stand this way, now turn … (you get the idea). Youngsters that want to pitch but find it awkward to put one foot in front of the other, usually end up at some other spot on the field. And it’s not that they couldn’t pitch if they wanted to … but the process of natural selection has a lot to say about it, believe me.
If your son is tall and slim for his age, may I suggest you both watch some video (YouTube) of Orel Hershiser. If he’s tall and stocky, may I suggest the same site … watching Roger Clemens or Jeff Suppan.
There is however, no substitute for hands on coaching, I must agree. But until that time, let your son go slow and easy does it with his development phase. When a good coach comes along, that coach and your son will have the raw material to work with that will aid both in bringing your son as far as possible … at that point in time. And on that note, that’s exactly what every successful pitcher – amateur and pro has done since day one. Ready themselves as best they could with what natural talent they had until the opportunity came along to capitalize on the time of the moment – good coaching.
Now, the real center of gravity with your question has to do with finding a reasonable pitching coach to bring your son along. In that regard, may I direct your fact-finding to a post I made on this site under the heading of YOUTH PITCHING… and a question asked by Dave’sdad entitled … “What to look for in a Good Pitching Coach.” I made a post there directing attention on how and what to look for in a youth pitching coach. I hope you find it helpful.