First off, let me qualify myself with respect to this subject – you, and what you’re going through right now.
I have no experience with the adolescent experience and even less with dealing with teenagers and their social life. Growing up and trying to “get through it all”, is a hard nut to crack by any stretch of the imagination.
I have found that teenagers have something lacking in dealing with life that adults don’t – experience. It’s that ability to compare things based on past experience along with the time to dwell and reason out the possibilities that adults have (most of us anyway), that you don’t. That situation for you and teenagers like you, is a bummer, to say the least.
Ok, look - acceptance is a good thing and we all need that to some extent, some more than others. The greatest acceptance that a man can have is to accept himself for who and what he is. In particular, being comfortable to his likes and dislikes, and where he stands on what’s right and what’s not. A man doesn’t have be proactive or even vocal on a lot of stuff, but being savvy and street smart to the world around him is imperative for healthy growth.
Learn to pick your battles carefully. Observe more than you activate, plan for the next day well enough in advance if you have to, and know the personalities in your immediate circles. Don’t put yourself in a location and situation that gives these people the chance to take advantage of you. You’re not going to change them, so don’t even try. So, give yourself time to plan for a better day – not run away from it. Big difference
You’d be amazed at how similar your experiences are now when projected into the future with employment, living in a neighborhood when you settle down with a family of your own, and …. are you ready for this…. raising your own youngsters when they have a similar experience that you’re having now.
With respect to your baseball experience – sometimes no matter how hard you try, the deck is just stacked against you. No matter how much advice you get, that advice just doesn’t fit neatly to the situation(s) at hand. And finally, when you’re dependent on someone else for an opportunity to show your stuff, and enjoy the experience, - but it’s not happening, it’s time to look elsewhere. Facts simple, easy to understand. I coached a man like that, sort of. We had a personality thing – I didn’t like him, he didn’t like me. Simple. No words were spoken, just rubbed each other the wrong way. After two seasons – he was gone. I felt pretty smug about the deal, but in a game the next season after he left, he pitched a no hitter against us. The new ownership called me into a closed door meeting and had me on the carpet for over an hour with … “how come you couldn’t get that out of him.” Life for me on that club afterwards was rough. Believe me, what goes around comes around.
You seem to have qualities of being sensitive to situations and environments, as well as the intelligence to understand beyond the immediate point in time. Use those qualities to your advantage - your well ahead of the curve among those around you.