““The result may not always come out as well as what mine did, but when you allow yourself to have your principles compromised and to be cowered by a HS coach for no good reason, its your fault and no one else’s. I was prepared to have him booted off the team by having a very good civil attorney briefed and ready to commence litigation.””
Good to stand up for your kid in that situation. You took the reasonable step of meeting with the coach first.
My sons freshman year there was a kid that went out for baseball, except, he only went to the first day of tryouts. After he didnt make the team (going to all three days was required) his mother went to the principal and AD and nagged them into making the coach give him a second private one day tryout. Of course, after the special tryout the coach said, "Thanks, but, you didnt make the team, you are welcome to try out next season and I want you to play summer ball with us this summer."
The mother then threatened a suit saying that the coach and school had discriminated against her son because he didnt have a ride to the last two days of tryouts. The AD and principal caved (immediatly) and told the coach he had no choice, he HAD to take this kid on his team. The result?
The coach quit the evening before the first game. The kid was on the team but was totally ostrocized. When he did play (wasnt much) he would come in and would sit alone on the bench. No conversation, no high fives. It was brutal to watch.
Your situation was very different of course. However, Im sure this mother did not anticipate what her actions would do to her son.
That said, Im glad you stood up to a stuborn and silly coach.