[quote=“Pustulio”]Hey guys if you don’t mind could I get a little bit of help here too? Lot’s of crap going on right now and frankly, I don’t have the time for therapy to help out with my problems this time.
So #1: Girl in my Psychology class, she sometimes says or does things that could be taken as dropping hints, but other times I just don’t even exist. Tells me she wants me to help her study and when I agree to do so I never get a time or day to help her out. My class mate has told me she likes me or as he says “wants my balls” but honestly I feel like I’m being messed with as I have been in the past in similar situations. I don’t know how to handle this.
#2: All of the sudden my best friend (or so I thought) and my sister are going out with each other. My sister has a tendency to throw herself at my friends and my team mates. This is very frustrating because both of them knew how I felt before this was even in question at all. Not only that but I wasn’t even told by either of them about it, I found out about it through a third party. It’s not so much that they’re dating but that they feel the need to go behind my back about it. It’s also frustrating because of all I’ve done for this friend. He would have quit baseball if it weren’t for me, I comforted him through his uncle’s (my coach’s) death, I got him through his last break-up, and the whole reason him and my sister started dating was because I was helping him out.
My sister was trying to get me to go out with her friend and since I already don’t like the idea of sibling’s dating their sibling’s friends I said no, but I knew my friend was having girl troubles so I got him a date with my sister’s friend, well then my friend ends up on a date with my sister and not her friend for some unforseen reason.
#3: This friend’s ex-gf and I are still friends and we almost started dating, but I told her we should remain friends, because I wanted to show respect for my friend (the one from #2) then he went out with my sister. So now his ex-gf and I are really close friends but I doubt it will go any farther because well, I don’t think either of us want to ruin the friendship and all that stuff.
I’ve just been flustered by all this stuff lately and with no baseball everything is just worse. I’m sorry for stealing your thread Johnny Cello. I just needed some help here. The girl problems really bug me, I’ve never really had a girlfriend and whenever I’ve started dating someone it lasted about a week or two and then the girl would just stop talking to me altoghether abruptly and inexplicably.
Thanks in advance for any helpful words.[/quote]
I will give you the best advice I can.
From my experience, either one of two things are happening: you are being messed with and in that case don’t change a thing you are doing. Or two she is dropping hints. Now depending on the girl, if shes really shy than she may be. However if she is a more outgoing person than likely she’s not interested.
Nothing you can really do there. I would simply support your friend and your sister, I know we can feel protective of our siblings at times but if he treats her right suck it up. If he treats her like garbage, go out and do the brother thing.
If you want to date her, go ahead. If you have feelings for her go ahead.
Overall Pustolio, no matter what you do. NEVER EVER DATE A GIRL FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING A GIRLFRIEND. Trust me girl’s can tell right away if this is happening, of those two girls above if you have some sort of feelings for them and the opportunity arises take it. If you don’t however hang back and the right one will come along. I didn’t have a girlfriend until the very end of my senior year of high school so don’t worry about it.