Glad you liked my response. As a HS coach, I have seen all kinds of stuff. We actually had an "agent" (father) bring us the stats of his kid from Little League through Travel ball as he came out for the team (JV) from another school. We were told this player is going to be the best catcher on our squad!! When he hands me the papers I asked what they were. When he told me I asked if he had copies! He said he did have copies and upon that I walked over to the trash can and threw them away. I think I pissed him off.... not sure.
As for your note, at the youth level this is happened in reverse and is what the major part of "daddy-ball." Here is your note but at the youth level.
The player who is 3RD in the batting order is NOT on a hot streak. In fact, he's been that way for the last 20 games (out of a 22 game season). He makes NO quality contact, DOES NOT put the ball in play and therefore doesn't hit into double plays, and NEVER gets on base.
I sent this EMAIL to the player's MANAGER/DAD that suggests making this guy your BOTTOM OF THE LINE-UP hitter. I was told that because this batter IS HAVING TROUBLE, he's a natural for BATTING 3rd TO GIVE HIM MORE AT BATS.
I essentially sent this email to my son's manager (10u/11u) this past year and in that email suggested a batting order based on actual batting stats and a professional mentality. I was ASKED TO BE AN ASSISTANT Coach by the manager as I have coached for years up to the High School level (was on the HS Staff at the time) and was able to help during most practices.
The manager's son batted 3rd in EVERY GAME and by game 16 he was batting .142. YES!!! .142 in little league!!! (I really didnt think that was possible) I suggested that he move his son to the last place in the order and move kids that are batting .500 up from 7th or 8th or 9th into the 3rd spot. This was a private email from a coach to the manager - not from parent to manager.
The manager of the team took this private email and called a parents meeting. He made a printed copy of the email and handed it out to each parent. I guess he was attempting to make me look bad. Most of the parents of the players agreed and more than a few were wondering why their child was batting last or near last while the manager and his best friend's kid (who was also a coach) were batting 2nd and 3rd. He explained that he was batting those two kids at the top of the order to give them more attempts as a way to help them! Hey.. I got some ocean front property in Kansas for sale!
After this meeting I informed him I would no longer be available to help with practice. I was not about to give another ounce of help to someone with this kind of personality. I never did like his coaching style and I was pretty upset when he picked my kid during the drafting of the teams, but didn't make waves and knew he couldn't mess up my kid as I spend a substantial amount of time teaching my son... and...hell... it is just rec ball! I never said a word to him about it, but he knew I didn't like how he coach. (Long story... )
The parents that stayed and watched practice over the next couple weeks got pretty upset because this "manager" and his other "coaches" (who were dads that really had no training in coaching and were just there to be with their kids) at how practice degraded substantially. I watched from the stands and even pulled my son from one practice because of the bad things they were teaching and I didn't want to learn bad habits.
The manager got pretty upset over the course of the next couple weeks and I was called out by the manager after a game a couple weeks after the parent meeting. He blamed me for causing trouble with the team and showing the kids a bad example by "quitting" and pulling my son from practice. He confronted me about writing his kid was the worst batter on the team (well... he was... he was batting .138 at the time) and because (as a "back east guy") I tend to get a little loud I stood my ground. Well.... the good 'ol boy network within most Little Leagues got wind of our "argument" (hmmm... yes that manager reported me as arguing with him - against the "Code Of Conduct") and I have been put on "suspension" from managing/coaching for the next year.
Well, I have placed myself on suspension, being that our son has moved on from rec ball.
You asked about our experiences.... LOL!!!!