[quote=“ephinz1”]Here’s what I have done, and do, with my kids - 9, 11, 13. No matter what happens out there - if you go 0-5 with five strikeouts or give up 8 runs without getting an out or get just a pinch hit at-bat, I really enjoy watching you play and am proud you’re part of the team.
When they succeed by overcoming adversity - holding it together through a blown “save”, I let them know the best part of the game to me was seeing how well they handled that
For the kids I coach, I let them know it is part of baseball and I know they will do it next time. “But Coach I can’t.” “Yet”, I add.[/quote]
Ditto! Took me until my son was 12 years old to figure this out. Never realized how much pressure I put on him by my after game critiques. Had a talk with him one night & told him I would sit quietly during the game & wait afterwards before talking. Found positives about his performances & no matter how bad a day he had didn’t make a big deal out of it. When he finally got used to the idea he didn’t have to face an over critical dad after the game it was amazing how much more relaxed he played. The only exception to the rule is effort. If he didn’t play hard I called him out afterwards (but still shut up during games) away from the field.