Disclaimer(S): I've been a lurker until this post. I am not an expert. Heck, I'm not even a parent who was ever on a mission to manufacture my kid into a baseball prodigy. Instead, I'm just a regular old run of the mill mom with a regular old run of the mill kid who was determined to see the view of the game he loved from the mound, in spite of being a 50 lb scrawny 9yo with awkward lanky limbs and 2 left feet. That big dreamin' kid just turned 15yo last week and is exactly what he set out to be...a bonafide pitcher. He is even considered a dominant one at that...or so I'm told ...successful in every one of those measurable stats that so many other folks care to keep and recite.
That being said, even though we did educate ourselves and take some specific steps and a somewhat measured approach to get him where he is now upon his announcement that he wanted to pitch, every time we are asked "how he got so good" or "what we did to get him where he is", we give the same sort of answer....
He loved thie game truly madly and deeply, so to him it was nothing short of an honor to be on the mound where so much responsibility lies. As a result, he was genuinely personally invested in his "job" as a pitcher, so therefore was 100% committed to the (often boring, routinely frustrating) process of making his contribution to the game that he so loved be an impactful one from that perch.. Sure, there were other "things",but none were more defining factors in his long term success than THAT. None.
My response is usually greeted with blank stares and is often followed up with things like, "Ok, um....but like....what 'program' did you use?", or "but...what pro trainer did you go to?", or "but...what travel ball teams did he play for?" . You see, the idea that determination and an authentic autonomous drive of a kid can be the major contributing factors that can make that kid "good" at this sport in the long run is foreign to parents/coaches because we are so inundated with "products" and information that are brilliantly marketed as "THE " tools needed for success, often preying on our fears that our kid won't measure up if we don't utilize them or follow a certain "path". I would offer that while many of these now-standard practices and perceived protocols do push SOME kids to be successful beyond what they could have achieved otherwise, there are STILL some kids whose success can lie in good old fashioned determination derived from a passion for the game or a particular skill.
I've got one of those kids, and you may have been lucky enough to have one, too...only you can figure that out. Just know it's not impossible.
While the rest of the story is obviously still unwritten, right now I would put my now 15yo kid who has spent his baseball lifetime doing things like begging us to play catch every single day (many times a day-in the rain and cold-doesnt care), or who we have always had to drag away from the diamonds (first one there and always last to leave whether he was playing or not), or who never once in all of these years has ever wanted to skip a practice (instead insisted on playing even when injured or ill), head to head with any kid his age who has spent their baseball life being "pro-trained", "programmed" and "prepped"... or even the kid who "threw 70 at age 12", and I betcha you couldn't tell the difference.
Don't throw in the towel...